Treatment for Trauma
Teletherapy in Maryland, Nevada & South Carolina
You’re doing well. You’ve built a life with success, stability, maybe even a family of your own. You handle responsibilities. From the outside, things look good.
But deep down, something still feels…off. There’s this persistent dissatisfaction in certain areas of your life. You can’t quite explain it but it shows up most in relationships.
You might find yourself feeling:
- Defensive or anxious during visits with family
- Triggered by subtle jabs or tone changes without knowing why
- Shut down in conflict, even when you want to speak up
- Drained or unsatisfied after talking with your mother or father
- Guilty for feeling and thinking any of the above
You’re not sure what to call it but you know you’re tired of feeling this way. And it’s starting to make you wonder:
“Why am I bothered by this? Why can’t I just be happy?”
You’re not dramatic. You’re not broken. And you’re definitely not imagining it.
Could it Be Trauma…Even If It Didn’t “Look Like Trauma”?
When people think of trauma, they often imagine war, violence or life-threatening events.
But trauma can also be quiet. Subtle. Repetitive.
You might not have been abused. Your parents provided for you: food, clothes, a roof over your head. But something still wasn’t right.
It’s not one big event. It’s the slow buildup of small hurts that left you emotionally bruised and no one noticed. Not even you. Not until now.
Perhaps there was a lack of emotional safety. Where there were subtle, repeated moments where you felt dismissed, belittled or not good enough. And you learned to keep the peace by not saying anything.
But if you were constantly:
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- Dismissed or criticized
- Encouraged to stay quiet, not take up space and just “be grateful”
- Ignored emotionally
- Gaslit or scapegoated in your family…then you’ve experienced trauma.
How Microtrauma Shows Up in Everyday Life
It might not seem connected at first. But trauma lives in patterns.
You may notice:
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- You go quiet when someone raises their voice even if they’re not yelling at you
- You apologize before you’ve done anything wrong or even if you haven’t
- You freeze in moments where you wish you could speak up
- You keep ending up with people who don’t value you
- You feel emotionally exhausted after visiting family
- You feel invisible in conversations, like your voice doesn’t matter
These aren’t personality flaws. They’re survival strategies. And they make perfect sense given what you’ve lived through.
You’ve told yourself things like:
- “It wasn’t that bad.”
- “Other people had it worse.”
- “I should be over this by now.”
That’s not healing. That’s trauma guilt. Trauma guilt is when you feel bad for having been hurt in the first place.
Let’s be clear: Your pain is real! Your story matters! And healing is possible!
Hiya! I'm Judy
I help high functioning but emotionally exhausted people untangle the pain they were never allowed to name.
I work with adults who grew up feeling unseen, unheard or emotionally dismissed even if everything looked “fine” from the outside. They were the ones who kept the peace, stayed quiet and never asked for too much. These are the quiet hurts, the ones that didn’t leave visible scars but still shape how they show up, speak up and relate to the people closest to them.
My approach to trauma therapy is steady, flexible and deeply respectful of your pace. Some clients work with me through EMDR, gently processing the memories and beliefs that still hold emotional weight. Others may begin with reflection, nervous system regulation or boundary work.
Some clients need space to talk and feel safe. Others are ready to go deeper into memory work. Most find healing in a blend of both.
We build your path to healing together.
Learn more about my steps to treatment for trauma.
What You Really Want
You may not have used the word “healing” yet but something in you knows:
“I don’t want to feel like this anymore.”
You’re not just here to survive. You want to live! You want:
- To feel emotionally grounded, not triggered
- To be in relationships that feel mutual not draining
- To stop feeling small around your family
- To walk into a family dinner without tensing up
- To stop picking partners who remind you of your childhood pain
- To finally believe: “I matter. I’m enough. I’m allowed to take up space.”
You don’t want to blow up your life. You want to feel safe in it. You want to feel whole. Real. You.
And I want you to know that’s absolutely possible. That’s where therapy, specifically trauma informed therapy can help.
If traditional weekly sessions feel too slow or fragmented, an EMDR Intensive can help you move forward more efficiently.
A Real Life Shift
Before Therapy
The anxiety would start before she even got there. Just thinking about visiting her parents made her tense up. She’d walk in already bracing herself. The passive-aggressive comments would come, and like always, she’d stay quiet until she snapped. Then the guilt would crash in. “I’m a terrible daughter,” she’d think, crying alone and wondering why it always ended this way.
After Therapy
Now, she walks in calmly, knowing she can handle whatever happens. No dread, no tight shoulders, just neutrality. She’s present, not on edge. If someone crosses a line, she speaks up clearly. And if the boundary isn’t respected? She leaves. Not in anger, not in drama, just in self respect. No guilt. No overthinking. No spiral. Just peace.
Trauma Healing Isn’t About Perfection. It’s About Freedom.
You’re allowed to:
- Not pick up the phone
- Stop keeping the peace
- Want joy instead of just “surviving”
- Want love that doesn’t make you beg
You don’t need to be fixed. You need to be heard. You need to be safe. And you need someone who gets it. That’s what I’m here for.
Is This You?
This work is especially helpful if:
- You’ve experienced emotional neglect or narcissistic parenting
- You were the scapegoat, not the golden child
- You constantly minimize your pain because “others had it worse”
- You struggle with boundaries and guilt
- You’ve tried talk therapy and still feel stuck
- You’re tired of reliving the same patterns over and over again
Ready for the First Step?
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You don’t have to figure this out alone. You don’t have to carry it forever. Healing is possible and it starts with one brave step.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Trauma isn’t always about one major event. It can be a buildup of small, repeated experiences like being dismissed, criticized, gaslit or emotionally neglected. If you feel anxious, shut down or triggered in relationships without fully understanding why, you may be experiencing the impact of trauma.
Yes. Trauma therapy is effective for both “big T” traumas (such as abuse, violence, accidents or life-threatening events) and “little t” traumas (like ongoing emotional neglect or criticism). Whether your experiences were sudden and overwhelming or subtle and long-term, therapy helps process the past so it no longer controls your present.
Trauma therapy provides a safe, supportive space to explore how past experiences shape your present. We may use approaches like EMDR, nervous system regulation, reflection or boundary work. Together, we’ll process painful memories, reduce triggers and help you feel more grounded and secure.
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is an evidence-based trauma treatment that helps the brain reprocess painful memories so they lose their intensity. Instead of feeling stuck in the past, EMDR allows you to move forward without the emotional baggage that comes with trauma.
Yes. For clients who feel traditional weekly sessions are too slow, EMDR Intensives provide deeper, more focused healing in a shorter period of time. This can be especially helpful if you’ve tried therapy before and still feel stuck in the same patterns. Find out more about EMDR Intensives here.
Yes. We provide teletherapy for clients in Maryland, Nevada and South Carolina. This allows you to receive specialized trauma treatment from the comfort of your home while still working closely with a licensed professional.
Start by scheduling a free consultation. We’ll talk about your concerns, how trauma shows up in your life and whether a trauma-informed approach, including EMDR or intensives, is the right fit for your healing journey.